Engagement (Vagdanam)

A blessing for the word given between two families.

Before the wedding there is the word: vagdanam, the promise given between two families, kept today as the roka, the sagai, the nishchayartham. This blessing marks the giving of that word, with both names spoken together for the first time.

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The prayer at its heart

Word for word, the way it has always been said. Their name goes at its head, and your words travel with it. The Sanskrit never arrives alone: a transliteration, so anyone can say it aloud, and its meaning in plain English.

Sam Añjantu: May All Anoint This Union

समञ्जन्तु विश्वे देवाः समापो हृदयानि नौ । सं मातरिश्वा सं धाता समु देष्ट्री दधातु नौ ॥
sam añjantu viśve devāḥ sam āpo hṛdayāni nau | saṁ mātariśvā saṁ dhātā sam u deṣṭrī dadhātu nau ||
May all the gods and the waters anoint our two hearts together; may the divine bond join us, one to the other. Spoken from the marriage hymn at the moment the word is first given between two families.

Source: Ṝg Veda 10.85.47, the marriage hymn; recited at vāgdāna, the betrothal Reviewed by Pandit Arvind Narayan Shastri

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The prayer is the same in all three. What changes is how it arrives: on the page, in a voice, or spoken on film.

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Their name set at the head of the occasion’s prayer
Sanskrit, transliteration, and plain-English meaning, side by side
Your message and intention, in your words
The source named on the verse, so you can look it up

Delivered by email within the hour as a private page link, ready to read, print, or share.Our pickVoiced blessing$24.99+$12.00 over WrittenHearing the prayer read aloud, with the name said, is the difference.

Everything in the written blessing
A calm reading of the full prayer, your names spoken, in a warm digital voice
A line-by-line pronunciation guide to read along with
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The written page arrives within the hour; the private audio link follows by email within 24 hours. Asha's voice is digitally produced, which is how every name is said with care, fast.Video blessing$49.99+$25.00 over Voiced

Everything in the written and voiced blessings
A short film, about fifteen seconds: our host Asha reads the blessing aloud, warm and unhurried
Their name on screen at the moment it is spoken
Made for the family group chat, and for keeping

The written page arrives within the hour; the private video link follows by email within 48 hours. Asha and her voice are digitally produced, which is how it reaches you in days rather than weeks.

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A blessing for …their name

sam añjantu viśve devāḥ sam āpo hṛdayāni nau | saṁ mātariśvā saṁ dhātā sam u deṣṭrī dadhātu nau ||…

Ṝg Veda 10.85.47, the marriage hymn; recited at vāgdāna, the betrothal. The finished page carries the whole prayer, in Devanagari, with its meaning.

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Every verse in this blessing is quoted from a named source, and Pandit Arvind Narayan Shastri of Rishikesh reads every one before it is sent. Our Proof Standard →

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